Monday, January 28, 2008

Adventures in Homeschooling

IF you are raising kids, and you ever start to think that life is boring I challenge you to start homeschooling. Now this isn't the only reason to home school, there are numerous reasons that different people home school their children, but the common factor is the REASON all of us are doing it because it is the best thing for our family. This doesn't mean that if you aren't homeschooling your children you are NOT doing what's best for your family. Now our children didn't come with an owners manual, and even if you are like me and read every parenting book out there, nothing can prepare us for when that first little one arrives in the world. So we bring the bundle of joy home and start to muddle through with exhaustion, laughter, tears, and a lot of prayer. Many times we make decisions not truly knowing what the outcome will be, but hoping that it will be positive, and help our child grow. Sometimes we have experience and thus know the outcome of the decision, and sometimes we flat out mess it up, and have to go about fixing the mess we caused. But through it all our passionate burning love, and desire to do what's best for our children does not change.



My husband and I made the decision to home school our children from the beginning of school. I now have a 8 year old second grader, and a 6 year old Kindergartner so I am by no means a seasoned homeschooling parent, and do not pretend to be. But I have come a long ways from the first week of my oldest sons Kindergarten year. Now I will admit I did think, "I at least know how to do kindergarten and first grade, so with my second son I would have NO problems." Ha! Ha! Who would have thought that these 2 boys would be very different, and guess what... they don't learn the same way, or have the same interest. So workbooks to learn handwriting worked with my first son, but my second one has learned a lot of his writing using a stick in the dirt. The wonderful thing about homeschooling is neither one of my children are penalized for their learning styles and preferences.

One of the biggest challenges I have found in homeschooling to overcome is doubting what you are doing because of what others says. We all have those days where we think we are crazy and are asking, "Whose idea was it to do this?" But we get passed that and the next day is a better day. The hardest thing to sometimes overcome are people's comments like, "How is your child going to prepared for the REAL world if they don't go to public school ." Well how many REAL world situations have you been in where a group of 25 people with no experience are thrown in a room for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week? The other thing that is asked a lot is, "Aren't you sheltering your children too much from the REAL world? Aren't you being overprotective?" Funny, I thought it was our jobs as parents, to protect our children.

I am not a gardener, but I have been to a greenhouse and seen beautiful plants a flowers. Now the purpose of a greenhouse is not to "house" the beautiful plants forever. Its purpose is to grow and nurture those plants. The caretaker makes sure that the perfect environment is provided. The perfect temperature, the right amount of food, the right amount of sunlight. The caretaker makes sure the plant grows to be the best plant it can be. Not to stay in the greenhouse forever, but to protect it until it is strong enough to be planted in the "real" world for others to enjoy. Now that same plant could probably be grown out in the wild, but would it be as strong, and as able to survive as that plant that was given such care in the perfect environment?

Now I am not saying that homeschooling parents are perfect, and that we do everything perfect, but there is no one out there that will love and look out for your child like you will as the parent. So I hope that if you are reading this today, and are questioning your calling, that you will be encouraged in your home school ADVENTURE, and know that you are the perfect "caretaker" for your "plants."

Please post comments, encouragement, and stories of your ADVENTURES IN HOMESCHOOLING.

Adventures Parenting Boys

We always hear the saying, "Boys and girls are different" and to most of us we think, "well duh". But me being a girl and raising 2 boys I now see how much different they really are. All my life when I imagined my family I imagined me, my husband, my daughter (born first), and my son. Now for reality... well there's me, I have my husband, and I'm the proud parent of an 8 year old and 6 year old, yes, BOYS . Now my husband has so much to offer in raising the boys, but let's face it they spend most of their time with me.
The differences between boys and girls begin to appear very early on. I have not heard a story about a girl standing on the porch and dropping her panties to go potty while her parents are having a garage sale, but I have experienced a boy doing this first hand. (Yes I will admit it was my son). I have learned with my sons, especially my younger one, to not ask if they CAN do something. Of course they CAN do ANYTHING, it just doesn't mean it WILL get done. You don't usually see a group of girls gathering sticks to use as guns, or swords to fight each other with, but I see this almost daily with boys. Girls will be content to play IN a fort (of course it will be called a clubhouse), but boys, they must conquer the fort. That means climb on top of it, up the side of it, on the rails, almost anywhere except for inside. I guess it's the boys need for adventure that drives them to do all the things that will make a mom's heart stop. So as a mom is it our job to quench this drive? No. We are the ones that have to make sure they have protective head gear, knee & elbow pads, and anything else needed when the time arrives. Then we say lots of prayers and we go with them on their next adventure.
I'd love to hear stories about your adventures in raising boys. So leave comments, and questions. There are some great boooks on raising boys. One is by Dr. Dobson. To purchase check out Treasures2yourdoor.com.